Now this blog is a little different… Different coz this topic was born while me and a friend were just chatting chatting chatting! The friend is Varun. Both of us are quite sure that we are friends who got lost in ‘Kumbh ka mela’ and have suddenly re-discovered each other!!! The losing each other story is long with a 'khusat buddha', 'prasaad ka peda', 'behti naak' and naak ponchhne ka kapda… but that’s not what the blogs abt!!
Its about the topic! OUR civic responsibilities as free citizens. We were discussing public display of affection or the PDA... While I was adamant there is a law against it, he was 'adiyal' on a stand that there is not. We talked of Shilpa-Gere incident to shore sides to operation Majnu and about social & judicial acceptance of kissing and demonstration of 'pyaar'... In the course of talk, another point was raised by Varun that as a society we accept pissing in public but not kissing... so i thought of explaining him the point of view of his opposite sex too. Read on my conclusive notes on the discussion...
There is a law against PDA and I know that there is! It was amended to exempt married couples after a couple was harassed by police one night, soon after operation Majnu. - well that was a wrong statement. PDA is not an offence but is punishable under another act of public nuisance, subjecting individuals to conviction and fine.
Now about the pissing part. Once my ideal, Dr. Kiran Bedi said that pissing is a nusiance but then u don’t see a lady/a girl sitting along roadside pissing. She added that it’s because girls from the very beginning of their lives are inculcated restraint and taught to accept. According to me, a gal who has travelled to and fro the busiest of places in NCR and seen most beautiful to the most deadly parts of Delhi, I know the pissing act is a way used by men high or low, rich or poor to show off that they are men. To assert a sense of dominance that look we are men, we have a right to everything, even roads!!! I have had personal experiences, of which you need not feel amused abt, using the pretext of nature’s call men try and scrape off all threads of dignity of girls passing by. If you try giving them bad looks, they smile wickedly, raise an eye brow, wink or mouth provoking words.
Men!!!! All kinds…such kinds that you want to pull them off and castrate there and then, when you have no one on your side. Police won’t move –‘men you see’… your friends would pass it ignoring – ‘kya panga lena yaar, udhar mat dekh; chal…’ and the enjoying fellow passers will turn their faces away as if they saw nothing…The result??? Well the result is that there are thousands of girls being teased in the country using this pissing shit.
Moreover, moving ahead and slapping is not easy Varun. You need guts...& an urge to fight down and even more than that you need a backup! Society accepts it, coz in time it has learnt to turn a back to it or is just too busy to bother. And for the roadside pissing men, well they forget the same pavement is going to home someone at night. They release and walk away, without responsibility without guilt...
Its about the topic! OUR civic responsibilities as free citizens. We were discussing public display of affection or the PDA... While I was adamant there is a law against it, he was 'adiyal' on a stand that there is not. We talked of Shilpa-Gere incident to shore sides to operation Majnu and about social & judicial acceptance of kissing and demonstration of 'pyaar'... In the course of talk, another point was raised by Varun that as a society we accept pissing in public but not kissing... so i thought of explaining him the point of view of his opposite sex too. Read on my conclusive notes on the discussion...
There is a law against PDA and I know that there is! It was amended to exempt married couples after a couple was harassed by police one night, soon after operation Majnu. - well that was a wrong statement. PDA is not an offence but is punishable under another act of public nuisance, subjecting individuals to conviction and fine.
Now about the pissing part. Once my ideal, Dr. Kiran Bedi said that pissing is a nusiance but then u don’t see a lady/a girl sitting along roadside pissing. She added that it’s because girls from the very beginning of their lives are inculcated restraint and taught to accept. According to me, a gal who has travelled to and fro the busiest of places in NCR and seen most beautiful to the most deadly parts of Delhi, I know the pissing act is a way used by men high or low, rich or poor to show off that they are men. To assert a sense of dominance that look we are men, we have a right to everything, even roads!!! I have had personal experiences, of which you need not feel amused abt, using the pretext of nature’s call men try and scrape off all threads of dignity of girls passing by. If you try giving them bad looks, they smile wickedly, raise an eye brow, wink or mouth provoking words.
Men!!!! All kinds…such kinds that you want to pull them off and castrate there and then, when you have no one on your side. Police won’t move –‘men you see’… your friends would pass it ignoring – ‘kya panga lena yaar, udhar mat dekh; chal…’ and the enjoying fellow passers will turn their faces away as if they saw nothing…The result??? Well the result is that there are thousands of girls being teased in the country using this pissing shit.
Moreover, moving ahead and slapping is not easy Varun. You need guts...& an urge to fight down and even more than that you need a backup! Society accepts it, coz in time it has learnt to turn a back to it or is just too busy to bother. And for the roadside pissing men, well they forget the same pavement is going to home someone at night. They release and walk away, without responsibility without guilt...
I'll tell you something which no one can deny...!! If a kid, a boy gets nature's call while on the way...the parents immediately get him relieved on the road side...this happens once twice and then the kid thinks it to be something natural...n over a period of time this converts to a habit or something thts very naturally right for HIM...and this is what Kiran bedi said, as you quoted in your blog...things go to the basics and we need to get them rectified from there itself...!!!
ReplyDeletethats a bit too much of resentment against men :)
ReplyDeletebut do remember, there are always two sides to the coin!!!